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Private Messaging is just that (meant to be private) Having got back late last night from 2 days working away, I have logged on today and read the above post. In answer to being logged onto the forum. If you check at anytime day or night, you shall see that I'm "on line", Being a lazy bu**er, I stay logged in until the time lapses, but I'm not always reading. There are two things in this life that really pee me off. They are litter and sarcasm !!

Sincere apologies. Chastisement accepted.

Hello, Our forum, along with its communication facilities, is designed as a friendly lounge, private or open discussion, where folks come & go at leisure. Folks who have other lives to live as well as the forum. Holidays or all manner of activities may prolong or delay a response. I sometimes miss private mails for days. I just love the flow of informative discussion, that I get lost in the enthusiasm. Thank you for your earnest statement of sorry.

How legitimate is my maths? I want something but I think it's too expensive by about a third. However in the last month I didn't buy three things that add up to that third. Is it legitimate to have the thing I want because I've 'saved' the extra money?

No, It's not that you have the money, but because you thought it to be too expensive in the first place

If you want it the maths will always make it legitimate as long as you have searched online to make sure you can't save a bit more.

Mick and Anne have laid out the argument between my head and my heart perfectly. It's not even one of those things that you can properly value. It's worth what someone wants to pay and someone want to sell. I'm rarely this conflicted.

That's a different matter, Helen. Then you have to weigh up how long they have been trying to sell it and if it is a while go in and make an offer as to what you think it's worth. It then depends on how much they want to sell it.

Two nights in a row now, I've heard geese fly over. Is it early?

Well Mike (Michael) Who am I ?. Lived for a short time in the same house as yourselves, knew your sister Sonia, uncle Stan married to auntie Mabel moved I believe to Charter Ave. I sometimes helped (in a small way) on Saturday green grocery rounds with mainly Uncle Sid but also uncle Tom. Vaguely remember Grandad Strong who had great pride in his Shire horse always polishing the brasses and won many rosettes at shows. Well Cousin, Too. many clues I suspect

Hi stpauls, since I missed you back in 2022, welcome to the forum

Cousin Brian?

Hello, This may need transferring to another topic. The roll of executors as administrators to an estate, (I'm sure that my health is improving), is fraught with misunderstanding, that a few pointers could make the task a bit easier. If the executor is the chief benefactor, it's so much easier, as all of the official paperwork is signed & managed by you. If however the executor is working between a solicitor & another main benefactor, even worse if it's a corporate benefactor, proceedings may go on for years. That's basically my point here. I cannot put this on the Last of the Summer Wine topic, as this affects most adults. Maybe at a time of bereavement, where a family member might request you to be their executor to their estate, we readily say yes & sometimes feel honoured to be asked. If & when you are asked, please take note of these three headlines. 1. Are you the main benefactor? 2. Is the main benefactor or benefactors individuals? 3. Is the main benefactor a corporate body? No 1, is often straightforward, with if needed, a bit of help with reliable friends & Citizens Advice. No 2 Becomes more complicated because of waiting for responses from all benefactors. No 3. I would recommend a solicitor to manage on your behalf, making sure that your expenses are met from the estate. I will go into this further if questions are asked in the topic, on the Forum. I don't want private mails. This is a learning curve for everyone.

We had some problems with my Aunt's will in that she'd left specific donations to charity. We put in a deed of variation to transfer money from my Mum who didn't want or need the money but we had to get all beneficiaries to agree, which in theory included the charities. All but one was a simply 'yes' but there was one that wanted more info, which delayed things. We donated to charities for Mum and Dad for them, so nothing was needed in the will. That was the simple days! Now probate is very complicated.

Thank you Helen That's the kind of complication that makes the procedure long winded, plus the need to keep a tight grip on all correspondence. It's like being a solicitors clerk almost. The government today is under pressure to sort out the often 90days for bills to be paid by large companies. They, along with some charities are as long winded regards will benefactor correspondence. So years on from the death, the nominated executor is still living in hope acting as gofor & piggy in the middle, battered by all of the beneficiaries sometimes.